Are You Satisfied With Your Average?

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn.

If that statement reads true, then would you be satisfied with your average?

I have learned the importance of spending time with the right people. It can really have a significant impact on your life, and can be the difference between success and failure. Maybe you have been friends with someone since you were kids and you used to have so much in common, but as you grew older things began to change. Really you began to change, you began to want more out of life but your friend or friends are content staying right where they are. That’s a crucial time when you have to make a choice. Sometimes this process can be uncomfortable, but absolutely necessary.  You have to choose to remain the same or have the courage to change.

When you’ve grown up with someone and been through ups and downs together, it can be difficult to move on to new things and let go of what you’re used to. It can be like a tug of war, with the back and forth of associating less with the old relationships and moving forward to new ones. I can say, that it’s so freeing to be on a journey of growth and have someone in your corner that understands you instead of someone who tries to keep you from moving forward and growing.

As painful as it may be many times it’s inevitable, because you may risk becoming stagnant if you continue in a close with this person or persons. There is a saying that I’ve heard many times which says “either you will affect them or they will infect you”. Though they may be long time friends is the friendship worth your growth and possibly your success? Sometimes when you make the choice of moving on, you may actually do your friends a favor and they may decide to eventuality begin on the journey of growth as well. Even if they don’t that’s ok in order to gain something new sometimes you must let go of the old. As difficult as it may be, make the necessary decision and move forward to your success. You have in you!

As Always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

It’s Ok To Ask For Help

It’s ok to ask for help! One the road to becoming the women of God that we were created to be, we have to learn to ask for help.

It’s so easy to just do everything yourself, and continue trying to be superwoman. I realized just recently that superwoman doesn’t really exist. If she does behind closed doors is, she struggling in secret? I know for me for years I felt that if I asked for help that people would think that I didn’t have it all together. What a relief it was when I let go of that thought process, and learned that sometimes in order to get it together help is required. Even if there are a few who may think you don’t have it all together, that’s ok. Hold your head high and ask for help anyway. At some point in life we have to look beyond what others think and do what’s best for us.

When you ask for help it not only alleviates some pressure but many times it also allows you to gain new knowledge that you wouldn’t have otherwise gained had you continued to do it on your own. It’s like being in a brainstorming session and you have an idea but those you are brainstorming with come up with ideas that you never thought of and you are able to take your original idea even further than you expected. Had that brainstorming session not happened you would still be there at point A trying to figure out the best way to bring the idea to fruition. It’s just the same with asking for help, if you ask you may gain wisdom that can take your life to the next level. Continue reading It’s Ok To Ask For Help

The Courage to Change

Just because that’s the way it’s always been doesn’t mean that’s the way it should always be! It’s such a blessing to be able to choose. But what do you do when you allow comfort and fear to keep you from choosing? I guess it’s not that you aren’t choosing because you are. Choosing not to choose is also a choice. There may be times when it feels like the situation you’re in is your only option, but there’s more than likely always another option you just may not see it at the time or maybe you just don’t want to rock the boat and deal with the possible friction that may come with change.

Sometimes it’s worth it to endure the consequences or the friction of change in order to have better and do better in life. It does take courage to change but it also costs us at times when we don’t have the courage to change.

Often times is comfortable to stay where you are doing what you are used to but it may not always be the best option. I mean for example if you go to a job everyday that you know is sucking the life out of you, but because it’s comfortable and a little flexible you stay. What would happen if you took the leap of faith and applied for jobs that not only brought you to your skill level but also poured life into you. Would it be worth it? Anytime we change it will always be a gamble, but anytime we choose to remain the same we are at risk of stagnation.

So let me ask you what is it in your life that you need to muster up the courage to change? Is it the courage to find a new job, end that relationship that you know is not good for you or even move to a better neighborhood. Whatever it is I’m sure it’s worth the courage to change, and if the change you make is not a desirable one keep looking until you find what you’re looking for. Sometimes we have to make several adjustments before finding the right fit, but it’s usually worth it.

Why not step out on faith today and have the courage to change, this may be the best decision you make in your life. You will never know unless you try. I remember specifically I had to muster up the courage to find a school for my son and the thought of having to make that decision was scary but necessary. It took me a while but I finally did it and boy am I glad I did. I know it’s difficult because you don’t know what the outcome is going to be but let go of the fear and step out on faith, it just may be the best decision of your life. You have it the courage in you to change.

As always remember You Are a Worthy Woman!