No Permission Needed

You don’t need permission to be great!!

Everything that you will ever need to be great is already on the inside of you. You were born with it, so there is no need to ask for permission to be great. I was either watching a Facebook video or listening to a podcast and the person was talking about greatness and how some people are holding on to their greatness because no one has given them permission. I never really gave much thought to that concept until now. I mean as children we are required to ask permission to do just about everything, and as adults permission is required for certain things as well, but stepping into your greatness should not be one of them. You were born to be great!

God has given you the gifts and talents you need to be great, so go be great. He granted you permission the day you were born. He created you with unique gifts and talents unlike anyone else who will execute greatness as only you could do. So if you have been that person waiting for someone to allow you to or give you permission to be great, the day has come for you to stop waiting and step into your greatness. When I say step into your greatness, I don’t mean go do what so and so is doing I mean do what you were uniquely designed to do. Be the designers original that he created you to be. While you have been waiting for someone to give you permission there are people out here waiting to hear, see or experience your gifts of greatness.

So if you are a writer, go write and be great. If you are a singer go sing and be great. If are an artist, go create and be great. If you are baker, go bake and be great. Whatever gifts talents and abilities that God put within you, use them and go be great. Of course with anything it will take practice, even with gifts and talents. The more you use that gift and practice your craft the more you master it, but if you continue holding on to the gift just knowing that you have it but never cultivating it to make it better you’ll never see the full potential. It’s like receiving a present but never opening it, if you don’t open it you will never know what’s inside and you’ll never be able to enjoy it. So let’s not keep our gifts and greatness on the shelf just for show, let’s get out there and demonstrate the greatness God has put on the inside of us. You don’t need permission to be great!!

Remember, You Are A Worthy Woman!!

It’s Not Too Late!

Scrolling through my Facebook timeline, listening to podcasts and especially at various stores, it’s quite evident that graduation season is here.

A time of new beginnings and bright futures for many. For others this time of the year may be a sad reminder of what wasn’t accomplished in their lives. Though education is important it’s not what gives  meaning and definition to your life. I have encountered many people who think that their education is the end all be all of their lives, and the fact that they don’t have the education that they desired or college wasn’t a good fit for them  they think they are stuck at the bottom.

Well if that is you and you feel that way, I am here to tell you that you are not stuck at the bottom and your future can be as bright as the person who just graduated with their degree. With hard work, perseverance and determination you can succeed too. There have been many people who have gone on to be successful who didn’t finish or go to college. People like Bill Gates who is one of the wealthiest men in the world, John Mackey who is the co-founder and co-owner of Whole Foods, Maya Angelou a Grammy award winning poet and author, Mark Zuckerberg who is the founder of Facebook, and last but definitely not least Oprah Winfrey, so you’re in good company.

Whether you are seeking a better job or are seeking to become a successful entrepreneur, it’s possible. Use the skills you have and if you don’t have the skills you need, learn them. In this day and age there are so many ways to learn the skills you need. You can learn them through books, networking and being mentored by someone who is already successful in the skill, surrounding yourself with hard working like minded people and one of my favorites YouTube videos.

So for those of you who  didn’t finish college and feel like college isn’t for you, get to work learning the skills you need to be successful.  For those of you who didn’t finish college and have a desire to go back but just haven’t yet, take the necessary steps and go get that college education you desire. You can do it, you have it in you to succeed. Hey you may even be one who not only didn’t finish or go to college but you may not have even finished high school. Even if that’s the case, there’s hope for you too, you can take the necessary steps to get your diploma or GED. Regardless of which of these situations you are in, as one of my favorite quotes state “It’s never too late to be what you could have been”. If you want it go for it!!

Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!!

Ever have a ton of things that you need to get done and realistically it’s not possible, but your ambition causes you to try to get it all done anyway?

Well that was me this past weekend. I had a list of things that needed to be done and realistically I knew I couldn’t get them all done. But I was trying to be Ms. 120(those who follow Dr. Eric Thomas can relate)  and it didn’t work out. I mean it seemed like the harder I tried the less I got done. Even though I was doing one thing, my mind was already at the next thing I was supposed to be doing, and that was a disaster.

I heard a saying on a podcast that explained my experience very well. Christy Wright of Ramsey solutions said that us women are often “trying to catch a tidal wave with a tea-cup”. That was a profound statement for me.  It was a great reminder that everything can’t be a priority. As women with so many things on our plate and on our to do lists we have to learn to plan our days realistically. I know you want to get it all done but let’s face it, the more we take on more than we can handle on our plate the more frustrating it can be. I mean you have a full-time job, you’re a mom who taxis your children to their activities and then when you get home you expect to get A, B and C done.

Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying don’t give everything you do your all, but you can’t do it all and give it your everything . You have to make a realistic decision of the things that you can accomplish in a day. For example if you are at work for 8 hours and you commute for 1 hour to and from work and sleep for 8 hours, that only leaves 6 hours left to do what you need to do. So you can’t squeeze 9 hours worth of activities in 6 hours.  Sometimes you can create certain processes to help you be more efficient in your activities but for the most part figure out how long the tasks takes and give yourself that much time to get it done.

So choose the top priorities for the day(remember you can only do what fits in the amount of time you have available)  Just like you can’t write a check for something if you don’t have the money in your account you can’t use time that you don’t have available. As I said before everything can’t be a priority. Incorporate those priorities into your schedule and make it happen!

You can do this! You Are  A Worthy Women!

Thank You For Being A Great Mom

I know you probably looked at the title and thought, how can you thank me when you don’t even know me. As I sat down to write this week’s post, I thought about all that mother’s do and I thought it was fitting to say thank you. Let’s face it, the job of a mother is not an easy one and sometimes it’s down right difficult, but we take the good with the bad and keep it moving anyhow. Why, because we love our children and know that the sacrifices we make today will someday pay off. They will grow up to be kind, respectful, loving, compassionate and successful young men and women someday. For now they’re still growing and at times they aren’t as appreciative as we’d like them to be.

In case you have children who haven’t told you in a while, thank you, in case your children haven’t yet understood your sacrifice and often forget to say these words, thank you. Thank you for being their cheerleader, nurse, teacher, cook, and banker to name a few. Thank you for the stern talking to you had to recently give your toddler, and for the punishment you had to put your teenager on not so long ago. Though they may not understand now, someday they will and they will thank you too. The discipline, strictness and the way they sometimes call you “meanie” is all worth it. Though sometimes it seems like too much, in the day in age we live in it’s necessary to be strict and to discipline. Even if they don’t see it once they are adults, they are sure to appreciate it when they have children of their own. So don’t be too hard on yourself, keep doing what you’re doing.

When I say thank you I am also speaking to those mother’s who haven’t actually given birth to a child but are constantly nurturing and caring for children as your own. Selflessly giving and caring for children who either don’t have a mother figure in their lives or you are a mother in addition to someones birth mother. How ever you are considered a mother, your love and sacrifice is appreciated by your children more than you know. So thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Enjoy your Mother’s Day and enjoy the children who’s life you make such a difference in. If no one has ever told you, you are a world changer through the children’s lives you’ve touched.

As always Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!!

How To Overcome Negative Words Spoken Over You

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”. As a kid and even numerous times as an adult I have heard this saying spoken. When I was a kid I considered this truth, but as I grew older I came to realize that this statement couldn’t be farther from the truth. Words can have the power to make or break a person and unfortunately the latter rings true for many.

So what do you do when those negative words have been embedded in your mind and sometimes you live as though they’re true? How do you overcome it. I’d like to share a few steps that I believe are helpful in overcoming negative words spoken to you or over you.

1. Change your environment- I can not stress enough the importance of a positive environment. If the person who is speaking negative words over you or to you is in your environment often, it may be time to change environments. It’s difficult to heal when the wound is constantly being reopened. As I talked about in my last post it may be difficult to leave friends and relationships that we’ve had for years, but if they’re speaking negative words to you and over you, the relationship probably isn’t fruitful anyway. If the person speaking negative over you is a parent or a spouse, you may think it’s not possible. Though you may not be able to totally get away from them for a parent you can limit your amount of time and number of days in their presence. For both the spouse and the parent pray for God’s direction in the situation for his leading.

2. Find the truth- In my opinion this is one of the best ways to overcome negative words being spoken over you or to you. Find the truth in God’s word. God’s word is true and “He’s the same yesterday, today and forever”(Heb 13:8). As the scripture says “Even when your mother and father forsake you he will hold you close”(Psalm 27:10). Find two or three scriptures to meditate on to renew your mind regarding the words spoken over you. Instead of meditating on the negative words meditate on words that matter and that speak life to you.

3. Know who you are- When you know who you are it’s hard for someone to tell you who you aren’t. I mean if you know without a shadow of a doubt that your name is Stephanie someone can’t come up to you and tell you your name is Sarah. You’re just not going to believe it no matter how many times they say it or how hard they try to persuade you. The same goes for when someone says things to you that are mean and possibly hateful. Knowing or learning who are is a key to getting past such harsh situations. If you are having difficulty with knowing or finding who you are I will talk about this more in depth in a upcoming post. I know sometimes life can make us as women question our identity but it’s time to learn and know who we are.

4. Say something– When you begin to have thoughts about those hurtful words that were spoken to you or over you, you have to say something. Stop dwelling on what they said and speak the truth. For example if that person told you you’re ugly, you declare to yourself how beautiful you are. If they told you you’ll never amount to anything you declare what a success you are and are going to be. Just as their words had the power to try to break you, your words have the power to change the way you feel and think about yourself.

There is a saying that I absolutely love that applies to this exact topic and it says “What you think of me is none of my business”. This is a good quote to adopt in life, and it will help to save you from the worry and stress of what others say or think of you. It’s only their opinion anyway. As I heard on a call recently we need to stop treating opinions as fact. The fact is you are beautiful, worthy and destined to succeed. So forget the opinion of others and walk in the truth!

Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!