On a scale of 1-10 how well do you take care of those you love? Ok, well let me ask you this, On a scale from 1-10 how well do you take care of yourself?
When it comes to taking care of those we love we go to great lengths to do our best at it. Making sure they have everything they need, taking time with them, making sure they take as proper care of themselves as they can and so on. That’s awesome that we are able to do that for them but do you do that for yourself? As women we pour so much into the lives of others that many times we neglect to pour into ourselves.
For the past few months I have seen a recurring theme around the communities I am involved in and that theme in a nutshell is giving from the overflow. We first have to be filled before we can give of ourselves to others. To operate or give to others when you are on empty is extremely draining, yet so many of us are constantly operating this way. Let’s look at the age old example of the instructions given to passengers preparing to take a flight. The instruction is if the plane malfunctions and is possibly going to crash, you are to first put on your oxygen mask and then go help others. You see you can’t help someone else if you aren’t first breathing. The same goes for taking care of others. To be able to continuously take care of others properly you must first take care of you.
Taking care of you by getting the proper rest, having some quiet time alone to do what you enjoy, eating properly not just whatever you can whenever you remember. When I say this I am totaling speaking to myself as well. As a single mom I am guilty of this more often than I’d like to be, but I am working on my commitment to make a change in this area. When my son has an appointment or needs something I am Johnny on the spot to make sure he is there or that I am getting what he needs. When it’s an appointment for me or I need something I’m not so quick to do the same, but I know that in order to continue to take care of him properly I have to do exactly what I am telling you all to do. So I commit to being intentional on taking care of myself better and making me a priority and giving from the overflow. This includes taking quiet time for myself, doing some form of self care daily, and simply pouring into me with as much effort as I do into others.
For some reason as I finished that sentence, I thought about those who think this may be selfish, but actually not taking care of you is selfish. Because as I stated before when we don’t take care of ourselves we become depleted and worn out and it’s so difficult to give someone your very best, if you aren’t at your best. So the next time you think you are being selfish because you are doing something for you, don’t. Remind yourself that you are doing this to be unselfish. I know it will take some getting used to but it will be worth the change when we see in ourselves and perhaps our health positive progress. Just making small changes makes all the difference. Let me know all the success you have with giving from the overflow, I’ll be excited to hear from you.
As always remember, You are a Worthy Woman!