I Gave Up Negotiating

Let me ask you a question, what are you willing to give up to keep your confidence?

I’ve learned that in order to gain, you sometimes have to give up something. Well for me that something was negotiating. I stopped negotiating my happiness, peace and confidence for the happiness, peace and confidence of others. I did that by establishing non negotiables in my life. For me that was a game changer in rebuilding my confidence.

You see I had to know what I wanted for my life in order to know what I didn’t want and wasn’t willing to accept. Knowing what you won’t accept is key to establishing non negotiables. So what is it that you will no longer accept to gain or rebuild your confidence?

For me when I first started the non negotiable process I wasn’t really truthful with myself because I was low key still trying to please everyone else. One day I was fed up with apologizing for my likes and dislikes and I made a decision to be the authentic me. That didn’t mean being rude or making excuses for any traits that needed to be worked on, but it meant to be unapologetic about who I truly am. No longer living life on the terms of others and who I was expected to be, just simply being who I am created to be.

I have learned that in order to get something different you have to do something different, which isn’t always as easy as it sounds. It will take hard work and commitment to maintain the change, but in the end what you gave up will more than likely be well worth what you gain. As long as you are holding on to what is, it’s hard to move forward to what can be. For that reason I am no longer a negotiator when it comes to my non negotiables. My peace, confidence and energy are off limits to negotiations. They are just too important to leave them up for grabs by negotiating for them. So what will you give up to keep your confidence? Share it with us in the comments.

You have it in you to give up what’s necessary to keep and maintain your confidence. As always remember You Are A Worthy Woman!