On the journey to becoming a confident woman one thing I’ve learned is that knowing who you are is important. If you don’t know who you are it’s hard to know where you’re going. Sometimes as women we can get so caught up in doing and being for everyone else we never really get to do for or know ourselves. When you don’t know who you are, it’s easy to become who others expect you to be. Being who others expect you to be may last for a while, but eventually being who you were created to be becomes vital. The need to conform to others expectations is not so important, because being who you were called to be is far better.
Taking time to learn about your likes and dislikes, your personality type and just what you want out of life is vital in building confidence. This exercise isn’t a project to be completed in a weekend but rather it’s a journey. There are many questions to explore and desires to be discovered but what you find can be absolutely life giving. It’s so refreshing to take the journey of knowing who you are. It’s a time to try new things, explore curiosity and just have fun getting to know yourself. Last year I attended a conference with some friends and afterward we went out for dinner, and it wasn’t a restaurant I was used to eating at and the food was beyond what I was used to eating. So a friend suggested that I should try something new. I’ll have to admit I was a bit nervous, but I thought to myself how can I continue to learn my likes and dislikes if I don’t try new things. So I took the plunge, I tried frog legs! Yes, frog legs! They weren’t bad either, so that day I learned what frog legs tastes like and that I actually like them. I never would have known that had I not stepped out of my comfort zone, and tried something new. Over the past few years I have learned so many things about myself and it’s been exciting!
In discovering who you are, I have found another good way to learn this is by revisiting what you liked and disliked as a child. You know the child before life began to happen and you had no understanding that others had expectations of you. Ask yourself questions like: