No Permission Needed

You don’t need permission to be great!!

Everything that you will ever need to be great is already on the inside of you. You were born with it, so there is no need to ask for permission to be great. I was either watching a Facebook video or listening to a podcast and the person was talking about greatness and how some people are holding on to their greatness because no one has given them permission. I never really gave much thought to that concept until now. I mean as children we are required to ask permission to do just about everything, and as adults permission is required for certain things as well, but stepping into your greatness should not be one of them. You were born to be great!

God has given you the gifts and talents you need to be great, so go be great. He granted you permission the day you were born. He created you with unique gifts and talents unlike anyone else who will execute greatness as only you could do. So if you have been that person waiting for someone to allow you to or give you permission to be great, the day has come for you to stop waiting and step into your greatness. When I say step into your greatness, I don’t mean go do what so and so is doing I mean do what you were uniquely designed to do. Be the designers original that he created you to be. While you have been waiting for someone to give you permission there are people out here waiting to hear, see or experience your gifts of greatness.

So if you are a writer, go write and be great. If you are a singer go sing and be great. If are an artist, go create and be great. If you are baker, go bake and be great. Whatever gifts talents and abilities that God put within you, use them and go be great. Of course with anything it will take practice, even with gifts and talents. The more you use that gift and practice your craft the more you master it, but if you continue holding on to the gift just knowing that you have it but never cultivating it to make it better you’ll never see the full potential. It’s like receiving a present but never opening it, if you don’t open it you will never know what’s inside and you’ll never be able to enjoy it. So let’s not keep our gifts and greatness on the shelf just for show, let’s get out there and demonstrate the greatness God has put on the inside of us. You don’t need permission to be great!!

Remember, You Are A Worthy Woman!!

It’s Not Too Late!

Scrolling through my Facebook timeline, listening to podcasts and especially at various stores, it’s quite evident that graduation season is here.

A time of new beginnings and bright futures for many. For others this time of the year may be a sad reminder of what wasn’t accomplished in their lives. Though education is important it’s not what gives  meaning and definition to your life. I have encountered many people who think that their education is the end all be all of their lives, and the fact that they don’t have the education that they desired or college wasn’t a good fit for them  they think they are stuck at the bottom.

Well if that is you and you feel that way, I am here to tell you that you are not stuck at the bottom and your future can be as bright as the person who just graduated with their degree. With hard work, perseverance and determination you can succeed too. There have been many people who have gone on to be successful who didn’t finish or go to college. People like Bill Gates who is one of the wealthiest men in the world, John Mackey who is the co-founder and co-owner of Whole Foods, Maya Angelou a Grammy award winning poet and author, Mark Zuckerberg who is the founder of Facebook, and last but definitely not least Oprah Winfrey, so you’re in good company.

Whether you are seeking a better job or are seeking to become a successful entrepreneur, it’s possible. Use the skills you have and if you don’t have the skills you need, learn them. In this day and age there are so many ways to learn the skills you need. You can learn them through books, networking and being mentored by someone who is already successful in the skill, surrounding yourself with hard working like minded people and one of my favorites YouTube videos.

So for those of you who  didn’t finish college and feel like college isn’t for you, get to work learning the skills you need to be successful.  For those of you who didn’t finish college and have a desire to go back but just haven’t yet, take the necessary steps and go get that college education you desire. You can do it, you have it in you to succeed. Hey you may even be one who not only didn’t finish or go to college but you may not have even finished high school. Even if that’s the case, there’s hope for you too, you can take the necessary steps to get your diploma or GED. Regardless of which of these situations you are in, as one of my favorite quotes state “It’s never too late to be what you could have been”. If you want it go for it!!

Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!!

Ever have a ton of things that you need to get done and realistically it’s not possible, but your ambition causes you to try to get it all done anyway?

Well that was me this past weekend. I had a list of things that needed to be done and realistically I knew I couldn’t get them all done. But I was trying to be Ms. 120(those who follow Dr. Eric Thomas can relate)  and it didn’t work out. I mean it seemed like the harder I tried the less I got done. Even though I was doing one thing, my mind was already at the next thing I was supposed to be doing, and that was a disaster.

I heard a saying on a podcast that explained my experience very well. Christy Wright of Ramsey solutions said that us women are often “trying to catch a tidal wave with a tea-cup”. That was a profound statement for me.  It was a great reminder that everything can’t be a priority. As women with so many things on our plate and on our to do lists we have to learn to plan our days realistically. I know you want to get it all done but let’s face it, the more we take on more than we can handle on our plate the more frustrating it can be. I mean you have a full-time job, you’re a mom who taxis your children to their activities and then when you get home you expect to get A, B and C done.

Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying don’t give everything you do your all, but you can’t do it all and give it your everything . You have to make a realistic decision of the things that you can accomplish in a day. For example if you are at work for 8 hours and you commute for 1 hour to and from work and sleep for 8 hours, that only leaves 6 hours left to do what you need to do. So you can’t squeeze 9 hours worth of activities in 6 hours.  Sometimes you can create certain processes to help you be more efficient in your activities but for the most part figure out how long the tasks takes and give yourself that much time to get it done.

So choose the top priorities for the day(remember you can only do what fits in the amount of time you have available)  Just like you can’t write a check for something if you don’t have the money in your account you can’t use time that you don’t have available. As I said before everything can’t be a priority. Incorporate those priorities into your schedule and make it happen!

You can do this! You Are  A Worthy Women!

Thank You For Being A Great Mom

I know you probably looked at the title and thought, how can you thank me when you don’t even know me. As I sat down to write this week’s post, I thought about all that mother’s do and I thought it was fitting to say thank you. Let’s face it, the job of a mother is not an easy one and sometimes it’s down right difficult, but we take the good with the bad and keep it moving anyhow. Why, because we love our children and know that the sacrifices we make today will someday pay off. They will grow up to be kind, respectful, loving, compassionate and successful young men and women someday. For now they’re still growing and at times they aren’t as appreciative as we’d like them to be.

In case you have children who haven’t told you in a while, thank you, in case your children haven’t yet understood your sacrifice and often forget to say these words, thank you. Thank you for being their cheerleader, nurse, teacher, cook, and banker to name a few. Thank you for the stern talking to you had to recently give your toddler, and for the punishment you had to put your teenager on not so long ago. Though they may not understand now, someday they will and they will thank you too. The discipline, strictness and the way they sometimes call you “meanie” is all worth it. Though sometimes it seems like too much, in the day in age we live in it’s necessary to be strict and to discipline. Even if they don’t see it once they are adults, they are sure to appreciate it when they have children of their own. So don’t be too hard on yourself, keep doing what you’re doing.

When I say thank you I am also speaking to those mother’s who haven’t actually given birth to a child but are constantly nurturing and caring for children as your own. Selflessly giving and caring for children who either don’t have a mother figure in their lives or you are a mother in addition to someones birth mother. How ever you are considered a mother, your love and sacrifice is appreciated by your children more than you know. So thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Enjoy your Mother’s Day and enjoy the children who’s life you make such a difference in. If no one has ever told you, you are a world changer through the children’s lives you’ve touched.

As always Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!!

How To Overcome Negative Words Spoken Over You

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”. As a kid and even numerous times as an adult I have heard this saying spoken. When I was a kid I considered this truth, but as I grew older I came to realize that this statement couldn’t be farther from the truth. Words can have the power to make or break a person and unfortunately the latter rings true for many.

So what do you do when those negative words have been embedded in your mind and sometimes you live as though they’re true? How do you overcome it. I’d like to share a few steps that I believe are helpful in overcoming negative words spoken to you or over you.

1. Change your environment- I can not stress enough the importance of a positive environment. If the person who is speaking negative words over you or to you is in your environment often, it may be time to change environments. It’s difficult to heal when the wound is constantly being reopened. As I talked about in my last post it may be difficult to leave friends and relationships that we’ve had for years, but if they’re speaking negative words to you and over you, the relationship probably isn’t fruitful anyway. If the person speaking negative over you is a parent or a spouse, you may think it’s not possible. Though you may not be able to totally get away from them for a parent you can limit your amount of time and number of days in their presence. For both the spouse and the parent pray for God’s direction in the situation for his leading.

2. Find the truth- In my opinion this is one of the best ways to overcome negative words being spoken over you or to you. Find the truth in God’s word. God’s word is true and “He’s the same yesterday, today and forever”(Heb 13:8). As the scripture says “Even when your mother and father forsake you he will hold you close”(Psalm 27:10). Find two or three scriptures to meditate on to renew your mind regarding the words spoken over you. Instead of meditating on the negative words meditate on words that matter and that speak life to you.

3. Know who you are- When you know who you are it’s hard for someone to tell you who you aren’t. I mean if you know without a shadow of a doubt that your name is Stephanie someone can’t come up to you and tell you your name is Sarah. You’re just not going to believe it no matter how many times they say it or how hard they try to persuade you. The same goes for when someone says things to you that are mean and possibly hateful. Knowing or learning who are is a key to getting past such harsh situations. If you are having difficulty with knowing or finding who you are I will talk about this more in depth in a upcoming post. I know sometimes life can make us as women question our identity but it’s time to learn and know who we are.

4. Say something– When you begin to have thoughts about those hurtful words that were spoken to you or over you, you have to say something. Stop dwelling on what they said and speak the truth. For example if that person told you you’re ugly, you declare to yourself how beautiful you are. If they told you you’ll never amount to anything you declare what a success you are and are going to be. Just as their words had the power to try to break you, your words have the power to change the way you feel and think about yourself.

There is a saying that I absolutely love that applies to this exact topic and it says “What you think of me is none of my business”. This is a good quote to adopt in life, and it will help to save you from the worry and stress of what others say or think of you. It’s only their opinion anyway. As I heard on a call recently we need to stop treating opinions as fact. The fact is you are beautiful, worthy and destined to succeed. So forget the opinion of others and walk in the truth!

Remember You Are a Worthy Woman!

Are You Satisfied With Your Average?

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn.

If that statement reads true, then would you be satisfied with your average?

I have learned the importance of spending time with the right people. It can really have a significant impact on your life, and can be the difference between success and failure. Maybe you have been friends with someone since you were kids and you used to have so much in common, but as you grew older things began to change. Really you began to change, you began to want more out of life but your friend or friends are content staying right where they are. That’s a crucial time when you have to make a choice. Sometimes this process can be uncomfortable, but absolutely necessary.  You have to choose to remain the same or have the courage to change.

When you’ve grown up with someone and been through ups and downs together, it can be difficult to move on to new things and let go of what you’re used to. It can be like a tug of war, with the back and forth of associating less with the old relationships and moving forward to new ones. I can say, that it’s so freeing to be on a journey of growth and have someone in your corner that understands you instead of someone who tries to keep you from moving forward and growing.

As painful as it may be many times it’s inevitable, because you may risk becoming stagnant if you continue in a close with this person or persons. There is a saying that I’ve heard many times which says “either you will affect them or they will infect you”. Though they may be long time friends is the friendship worth your growth and possibly your success? Sometimes when you make the choice of moving on, you may actually do your friends a favor and they may decide to eventuality begin on the journey of growth as well. Even if they don’t that’s ok in order to gain something new sometimes you must let go of the old. As difficult as it may be, make the necessary decision and move forward to your success. You have in you!

As Always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

It’s Ok To Ask For Help

It’s ok to ask for help! One the road to becoming the women of God that we were created to be, we have to learn to ask for help.

It’s so easy to just do everything yourself, and continue trying to be superwoman. I realized just recently that superwoman doesn’t really exist. If she does behind closed doors is, she struggling in secret? I know for me for years I felt that if I asked for help that people would think that I didn’t have it all together. What a relief it was when I let go of that thought process, and learned that sometimes in order to get it together help is required. Even if there are a few who may think you don’t have it all together, that’s ok. Hold your head high and ask for help anyway. At some point in life we have to look beyond what others think and do what’s best for us.

When you ask for help it not only alleviates some pressure but many times it also allows you to gain new knowledge that you wouldn’t have otherwise gained had you continued to do it on your own. It’s like being in a brainstorming session and you have an idea but those you are brainstorming with come up with ideas that you never thought of and you are able to take your original idea even further than you expected. Had that brainstorming session not happened you would still be there at point A trying to figure out the best way to bring the idea to fruition. It’s just the same with asking for help, if you ask you may gain wisdom that can take your life to the next level. Continue reading It’s Ok To Ask For Help

The Courage to Change

Just because that’s the way it’s always been doesn’t mean that’s the way it should always be! It’s such a blessing to be able to choose. But what do you do when you allow comfort and fear to keep you from choosing? I guess it’s not that you aren’t choosing because you are. Choosing not to choose is also a choice. There may be times when it feels like the situation you’re in is your only option, but there’s more than likely always another option you just may not see it at the time or maybe you just don’t want to rock the boat and deal with the possible friction that may come with change.

Sometimes it’s worth it to endure the consequences or the friction of change in order to have better and do better in life. It does take courage to change but it also costs us at times when we don’t have the courage to change.

Often times is comfortable to stay where you are doing what you are used to but it may not always be the best option. I mean for example if you go to a job everyday that you know is sucking the life out of you, but because it’s comfortable and a little flexible you stay. What would happen if you took the leap of faith and applied for jobs that not only brought you to your skill level but also poured life into you. Would it be worth it? Anytime we change it will always be a gamble, but anytime we choose to remain the same we are at risk of stagnation.

So let me ask you what is it in your life that you need to muster up the courage to change? Is it the courage to find a new job, end that relationship that you know is not good for you or even move to a better neighborhood. Whatever it is I’m sure it’s worth the courage to change, and if the change you make is not a desirable one keep looking until you find what you’re looking for. Sometimes we have to make several adjustments before finding the right fit, but it’s usually worth it.

Why not step out on faith today and have the courage to change, this may be the best decision you make in your life. You will never know unless you try. I remember specifically I had to muster up the courage to find a school for my son and the thought of having to make that decision was scary but necessary. It took me a while but I finally did it and boy am I glad I did. I know it’s difficult because you don’t know what the outcome is going to be but let go of the fear and step out on faith, it just may be the best decision of your life. You have it the courage in you to change.

As always remember You Are a Worthy Woman!

Not Why Can’t You, But How Can You

Ever have an idea to do something and your first thought after that great idea is why you can’t carry out that idea? I know I’ve been there, more times than I’d like to admit. But I have learned that when my mind shifts to the negative, I have to steer it back in a positive direction. It’s difficult for dreams to be birthed in negativity, so I propose a solution. The next time you have an idea that you’d like to execute on and that negative thought tries to slow you down. Simply say to yourself “not why can’t I, but how can I.

I truly believe dwelling on how you can instead of the reasons why you can’t can be life changing. Just think of all the things you could accomplish if you executed on how could you instead of why you couldn’t. If instead of why you can’t start a business you created a plan of how you can. If instead of constantly saying why no one would buy your products you come up with a plan for them not only to buy your products but to also help promote your products. It also really helps to associate yourself with people who think outside of the box and look for the possibilities in a situation instead of the impossibilities. That one change alone will have you executing on way more ideas than giving yourself an out as you may have done in the past.

I challenged someone to do this a few days ago to try this strategy out and see how much they accomplish. I am anxious to see out it turns out! So I would like to challenge you as well. For the next 30 days every time you have an idea that you’d like to execute on and that negative thought tries to shut down the idea before it ever gets started. Ask yourself the question, “Not why can’t I, how can I”? But let’s take it a step further, don’t just think about it, I want you to get out a notebook or a piece of paper and write down a few steps you can take to execute on this idea. I am looking forward to seeing a lot of ideas that would have normally been dismissed to being executed on, and not just executed but executed with confidence. Leave a comment below letting me know what ideas you are executing on. Ready, set, go!!

As always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!!

Nobody Better

I love watching movies and finding meaning or quotes in the movie that help with life. There is a Whoopi Goldberg movie that I watched years ago called “Corina Corina”. In that movie one of the actors made a statement and even years later that statement resonates with me. “I am Molly Singer and there is nobody in the world that is better than me” is the statement she made. The statement wasn’t said in a cocky or superior kind of way but simply in a bold and confident kind of way.

That statement says so much in my opinion. I hear it saying even when others don’t think I’m good, I am. Even when I don’t feel like the best, I am. Even when I don’t feel the prettiest, I am. I am confident and I am bold.

If you just took a moment and looked at yourself in the mirror and said I am (insert your name here) and there is no one in the world that is better than me. Making a statement like that exudes confidence immediately. I don’t mean just mumble the statement, but say it like you mean it. Even if you don’t feel like the statement is true at the moment, that’s ok say it anyway. If you say it enough you will begin to believe it.

It’s interesting how we sometimes believe a lie quicker than we believe the truth. I know I may not know you personally and may have never met you, but the truth is, you’re beautiful. No matter what the world says or your teacher said or what even what you say to yourself negatively, you are beautiful and you are worthy ! I want you to always remember that. Even at times when your mind or the enemy is telling you different don’t believe it. I am absolutely positively sure you are beautiful and worthy. No matter what you’ve done or been through those things don’t define who you are.

Let’s begin today by leaving the past in the past and using those obstacles and adversities to make us better not bring us further down. There is a quote which I’m not sure who the author is, that says “repair your broken principles and keep moving forward”. That is my advice for you today, repair or come out of who and what you used to be and come up higher to walk into who God called you to be. No longer driven by your past, but boldly and confidently walking into your future.

You are (insert your name here) and there is no one in the world that is better than you!

Always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!