The Courage to Change

Just because that’s the way it’s always been doesn’t mean that’s the way it should always be! It’s such a blessing to be able to choose. But what do you do when you allow comfort and fear to keep you from choosing? I guess it’s not that you aren’t choosing because you are. Choosing not to choose is also a choice. There may be times when it feels like the situation you’re in is your only option, but there’s more than likely always another option you just may not see it at the time or maybe you just don’t want to rock the boat and deal with the possible friction that may come with change.

Sometimes it’s worth it to endure the consequences or the friction of change in order to have better and do better in life. It does take courage to change but it also costs us at times when we don’t have the courage to change.

Often times is comfortable to stay where you are doing what you are used to but it may not always be the best option. I mean for example if you go to a job everyday that you know is sucking the life out of you, but because it’s comfortable and a little flexible you stay. What would happen if you took the leap of faith and applied for jobs that not only brought you to your skill level but also poured life into you. Would it be worth it? Anytime we change it will always be a gamble, but anytime we choose to remain the same we are at risk of stagnation.

So let me ask you what is it in your life that you need to muster up the courage to change? Is it the courage to find a new job, end that relationship that you know is not good for you or even move to a better neighborhood. Whatever it is I’m sure it’s worth the courage to change, and if the change you make is not a desirable one keep looking until you find what you’re looking for. Sometimes we have to make several adjustments before finding the right fit, but it’s usually worth it.

Why not step out on faith today and have the courage to change, this may be the best decision you make in your life. You will never know unless you try. I remember specifically I had to muster up the courage to find a school for my son and the thought of having to make that decision was scary but necessary. It took me a while but I finally did it and boy am I glad I did. I know it’s difficult because you don’t know what the outcome is going to be but let go of the fear and step out on faith, it just may be the best decision of your life. You have it the courage in you to change.

As always remember You Are a Worthy Woman!

Not Why Can’t You, But How Can You

Ever have an idea to do something and your first thought after that great idea is why you can’t carry out that idea? I know I’ve been there, more times than I’d like to admit. But I have learned that when my mind shifts to the negative, I have to steer it back in a positive direction. It’s difficult for dreams to be birthed in negativity, so I propose a solution. The next time you have an idea that you’d like to execute on and that negative thought tries to slow you down. Simply say to yourself “not why can’t I, but how can I.

I truly believe dwelling on how you can instead of the reasons why you can’t can be life changing. Just think of all the things you could accomplish if you executed on how could you instead of why you couldn’t. If instead of why you can’t start a business you created a plan of how you can. If instead of constantly saying why no one would buy your products you come up with a plan for them not only to buy your products but to also help promote your products. It also really helps to associate yourself with people who think outside of the box and look for the possibilities in a situation instead of the impossibilities. That one change alone will have you executing on way more ideas than giving yourself an out as you may have done in the past.

I challenged someone to do this a few days ago to try this strategy out and see how much they accomplish. I am anxious to see out it turns out! So I would like to challenge you as well. For the next 30 days every time you have an idea that you’d like to execute on and that negative thought tries to shut down the idea before it ever gets started. Ask yourself the question, “Not why can’t I, how can I”? But let’s take it a step further, don’t just think about it, I want you to get out a notebook or a piece of paper and write down a few steps you can take to execute on this idea. I am looking forward to seeing a lot of ideas that would have normally been dismissed to being executed on, and not just executed but executed with confidence. Leave a comment below letting me know what ideas you are executing on. Ready, set, go!!

As always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!!

Nobody Better

I love watching movies and finding meaning or quotes in the movie that help with life. There is a Whoopi Goldberg movie that I watched years ago called “Corina Corina”. In that movie one of the actors made a statement and even years later that statement resonates with me. “I am Molly Singer and there is nobody in the world that is better than me” is the statement she made. The statement wasn’t said in a cocky or superior kind of way but simply in a bold and confident kind of way.

That statement says so much in my opinion. I hear it saying even when others don’t think I’m good, I am. Even when I don’t feel like the best, I am. Even when I don’t feel the prettiest, I am. I am confident and I am bold.

If you just took a moment and looked at yourself in the mirror and said I am (insert your name here) and there is no one in the world that is better than me. Making a statement like that exudes confidence immediately. I don’t mean just mumble the statement, but say it like you mean it. Even if you don’t feel like the statement is true at the moment, that’s ok say it anyway. If you say it enough you will begin to believe it.

It’s interesting how we sometimes believe a lie quicker than we believe the truth. I know I may not know you personally and may have never met you, but the truth is, you’re beautiful. No matter what the world says or your teacher said or what even what you say to yourself negatively, you are beautiful and you are worthy ! I want you to always remember that. Even at times when your mind or the enemy is telling you different don’t believe it. I am absolutely positively sure you are beautiful and worthy. No matter what you’ve done or been through those things don’t define who you are.

Let’s begin today by leaving the past in the past and using those obstacles and adversities to make us better not bring us further down. There is a quote which I’m not sure who the author is, that says “repair your broken principles and keep moving forward”. That is my advice for you today, repair or come out of who and what you used to be and come up higher to walk into who God called you to be. No longer driven by your past, but boldly and confidently walking into your future.

You are (insert your name here) and there is no one in the world that is better than you!

Always Remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

Take Time To Care For You

As women we are naturally wired to take care of everyone, but at what point do we take care of ourselves? If you are a woman reading this and you are constantly taking care of others but never take the time for you, it’s time to change that today. When caring for others whether children, husband, parents or even friends you can easily forget to take care of you. Caring for self is very important and needs to be prioritized as such. As I write this I am also speaking to myself.

Whether you just take a few hours of alone time to read a good book, going to lunch with a friend or treating yourself to a massage. Self care is so important in that when we are always taking care of others and never or rarely taking care of ourselves, and it can lead to burnout at times. We can’t very well take care of others if we are out of commission. As is stated in the announcements on a plane before take off, In the event of an emergency situation and passengers are required to put on the masks, you must first put the mask on yourself before you can help anyone else. The same goes for life.

When I say self care I’m not just talking about treating yourself to “me time” by doing something you love. I’m also speaking in terms of health as well. If there is a doctors appointment that you have been putting off or if you haven’t been to the dentist in a while even, this is definitely a part of self care. Another important form of self care is the proper food intake. Eating too many sugary, fried and processed food zaps your energy which leaves you drained while trying to care for your family and friends. You already have a lot on your plate who wants to be exhausted halfway through the day. I’m sure each of us women have neglected to care for ourselves in at least one if not all of the self care categories that I wrote about in this post.

Let’s get intentional on taking the time to care for ourselves,and I don’t mean just saying we are going to do it. Set up a time(yes like an appointment) when you are going to enjoy some “me time”, make that doctor or dentist appointment and or even meal plan to start eating healthy. We are diligent in making appointments and caring for others let’s get diligent in making appointments and caring for ourselves. Let’s get started today! Your family and friends will thank you!

As always remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

Overcoming The Unexpected

Have you ever just been going about your life doing well, grinding on the way to success and out of the blue it hit you? What hit you? Life that’s what hit you! You know that bill, bad news or unexpected breakdown of a relationship you weren’t prepared for? What do you do to overcome moments or even seasons like these? Well this past week I experienced one of those unexpected moments and it wasn’t pretty. I want to share some points with you that may help in coming out of these seasons or moments of life on top.

1. Faith
The first thing I think is crucial in seasons or moments like this is faith. At times like these you you should draw as close to God as possible. He is the ultimate comforter. Some of the ways you can draw close to God is: reading His word, praying(talk to Him just like you talk to your friends, He understands your language He made you), listening to sermons and one of my favorites, listening to praise and worship music. In my opinion faith is absolutely necessary in overcoming life’s’ unexpected moments or seasons.

2. Good Friends
There is nothing like having a good friend to give you that pep talk, laugh and cry all in the same conversation. That friend who will allow you to be sad for a few moments and even a few days if need be, but after that, is there to motivate you to get back in the swing of things. At times like these we don’t need those fair weather friends or someone who calls themselves your friend but aren’t really familiar with the true meaning of the word. You need those true friends that will push you. This brings me to my next point.

3. A Positive Environment
Being positive when going through life’s unexpected moments can be hard, but it will make all the difference in the time it takes you to bounce back. Inevitably at some point in our lives we will all be knocked down but we must not stay down, we have to get back up as quickly as possible. To do that maintaining a positive environment is key. You do this by surrounding yourself with positive people even if it’s only one person be sure that person is positive. If you don’t have any positive people to be around then listen to positive people’s messages on your phone, in your car and on the computer. Some positive people you can listen to are Dr. Eric Thomas, Zig Ziglar and Les Brown to name a few. Each one of these guys motivate me each time I listen to them but if you aren’t motivated by any of them you can do a google search to find someone that motivates you. Being positive also includes the words you speak to yourself, this is crucial in this process of overcoming the unexpected. It’s bad when others speak negative words about you, but I think it’s even worse when you speak negative about yourself. Speaking positive in my opinion helps you stay positive.

4. Laughter
Lastly when going through the unexpected, I suggest you get in a few belly laughs a day. Really you should get a few belly laughs in even if you aren’t facing a challenge. For me I have a few go to movies or tv shows that I watch when I just need a laugh. Laughing just does something for me, it almost has a soothing affect. I remember as a kid hearing women say that they had to laugh to keep from crying. Sometimes that’s what we have to do, laugh to keep from crying. Laughter is healing for the emotions in my opinion. As the scripture says “Laughter does the heart good like medicine”. So the next time you are going through or just need a laugh get a few funny movies and laugh to your hearts content.

So if you’re in a difficult unexpected season or moment right now, try some of these keys and see how they help during this time. If life is going good for you keep this post handy anyway to refer back to as life has a way of showing up unexpectedly. Actually it may be helpful to have these things in place at all times because as Dr. Eric Thomas says “If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready”. No matter what season of life you may be in today always remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

True Love is Worth the Wait

Over the past few weeks I have talked about the ultimate example of love, the love of God the father. Though His love is irreplaceable, as humans we seek earthly(human love) as well. In seeking earthly(human love) at what cost should you do so? I mean in this day and age there are several ways in which people seek love. Whether it be blind dates, meeting people while in your daily routine, attending singles events or online dating. The options seem to continue to grow. While in this process of finding love or love finding you, make sure that’s it just that, love. Not filling the need to not be lonely or the deadline that you had for yourself to be married by a certain age.

I had a conversation some time ago with someone and we were talking about relationships and how they were tired of being alone. The conversation got very interesting when I asked the question “is it worth it to just date someone for the sake of not being alone and ultimately feeling a false sense of love”? I mean of course no one can ever come close to God’s but that love definitely doesn’t have to be second rate. From the way the conversation went the answer came to that it wasn’t worth it just to date or marry just for the sake of dating or marrying, but being lonely wasn’t fun either.

There comes a time when the decisions that we make will be the best decision for us, but it may be a little uncomfortable for a while. Finding love almost always falls in this category. I mean we are faced with the dilemma of accepting what is available or holding out for true love. The pain and loneliness that comes with the decision of waiting for a man who genuinely loves you and will treat you the way you ought to be treated will be nothing compared to the joy of when he actually arrives. Of course when you are wanting for something you tend to focus on getting that thing, but as the saying goes, don’t be so focused on the destination that you forget to enjoy the journey.

If you find yourself single and wondering when will my time come, be patient your time is coming!! True love is worth the wait. Though at times being single you may experience heartache. I’m sure that wouldn’t compare to the pain and regret of realizing that you gave up what you wanted most for what you desired at the time. So just be patient, as I said before your time is coming! While you’re waiting prepare, because preparation time is never lost time. True love is worth the wait!

Always remember You are a Worthy Woman!

Bought With A Price And Insured

I heard a really good sermon the other day that really made me look at the love of God in a different way. It’s always been comforting to know that God loved us so much that we were bought with the priceless blood of Jesus. That’s just awesome in itself, He loved us so much that He sent His one and only son to die on the cross for you and me. Just imagine every one of your sins, sickness and disease has already been paid for by Jesus blood.

Think about it for a second, someone loved you so much that they gave their life for yours. I don’t know about you but for me this story never gets old and never loses it’s impact. And just in case you happen to lose sight of His love along the way, He left us some insurance if you will to remind us of His love. He didn’t just love us enough to die for us He loved us so much that He left us His word, an instruction manual and love letter for life. Bought with a price and insured, now that’s love. In case you need a reminder of his love at any given time your insurance policy(the word) is always there to remind you of that love.

I don’t mean to be redundant but knowing how much we are loved is exciting to me and I want to be sure that you and women around the world know about His love. If you are not familiar with His word why not get acquainted today, Proverbs is a great place to start.

As always, remember You are a Worthy Woman!

Unconditional Love

It’s funny how in life we encounter many different people & personalities. Those who attempt to bring out the worst in us & others who bring out the absolute best. Those who give ultimatums & love us conditionally & those who love us no matter what. Just in case you didn’t know God’s love is unconditional.

He’s loves you when you’re at your best and He also loves you in the times you’re at your worst. There is nothing that we can do to make our Heavenly Father love us any less. He doesn’t give ultimatums and loves you for who you are. Whether you are tall or short, light or dark, introverted or extroverted He loves you. Yes He loves you, you reading this blog. He loves you! Look at yourself in the mirror and say God loves me!

Yes He loves you! The word says “He loves us with an everlasting love”(Jeremiah 31:3a). Everlasting means forever, so yes God will love you forever. His love doesn’t change and it’s never revoked. God’s unconditional love is always there and you can count on that. As Hebrews 13:8 says “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.”

So if you are reading this today and you feel that there is no way that God can love you, because you’ve done such and such. He does love you and He loves you unconditionally. Here are a few things He has said about you or to you:

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. John 15:9(ESV)

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16(NIV)

For I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from his love. Death can’t, and life can’t. The angels won’t, and all the powers of hell itself cannot keep God’s love away. Our fears for today, our worries about tomorrow, 39 or where we are—high above the sky, or in the deepest ocean—nothing will ever be able to separate us from the love of God demonstrated by our Lord Jesus Christ when he died for us. Romans 8:38-39(TLB)

So no matter what you’ve done or what you’re going through God’s love is ever present in you and for you. He loves you so much, more than you will ever know. Receive His love today.

God Loves You Unconditionally and remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

He Loves You!

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner I thought it was the perfect time to speak to you ladies on love. For the next few weeks I will be doing a series titled “So Loved”.  As a minister at my church always used to say “you haven’t been loved until you’ve been SO LOVED”.

I remember as a little girl when we really liked someone we would get flowers with petals and take the petals off one by one alternating saying “he loves me, he loves me not”, and if on the last petal you were at he loves me then it meant that possibly the boy liked you. Oh the silly things we did as kids, what a way to determine love.

Whether you are spending this Valentine’s Day with or without someone I’d like to tell you that you are SO LOVED, HE LOVES YOU. I know usually around this time of the year we compute love in dinners, balloons and gifts but it goes far beyond that. We have been loved with an everlasting love(Jeremiah 31:3), a love that’s not conditional or only comes around some of the time, this is a everyday all day kind of love.

This love I’m speaking of is the father’s love, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!”( I John 3:1a).  So whether you will have a valentine or not this year, know that YOU ARE LOVED. You are so loved that not only did He give His only begotten son for you, He created the masterpiece of you. He carefully planned every detail about you even down to the number of hairs on your head. Wow…that ‘s some kind of love. I know you may be thinking(if you’re single) you want a physical love and I totally understand that, but at God’s perfect time He will send you someone who He has hand picked for you. It will definitely be worth the wait, but until then enjoy the exclusivity of God’s love. I pray that God’s love floods your heart today and that you feel His presence today and everyday. So that you always remember I want you to say every day I am (insert your name here) and I AM LOVED!

YOU ARE LOVED AND YOU ARE A WORTHY WOMAN!!

 

Focus on the Finish Line

At the start of a dream most if not all people are excited, and motivated to say the least. The beginning is always fun and exciting and nothing can keep you from your dream so it seems. In talking about dreams and goals the beginning and the end of the dream or goal are happy times but what about the middle? You know when it seems like those small wins just aren’t enough and everyone around you is excelling at full speed ahead but it seems that your progress is slow? It’s at times like that when you must be intentional with your focus, it’s at times like that when you must have a laser focus if you will.

It’s so easy to look around and see the progress that others are making, and your small wins seem insignificant, but don’t despise small beginnings. Just keep that tunnel vision and you will get there. Focus is very important in achieving your dreams, and losing your focus to see what others are doing is good way to slow down your own progress. In that looking at others and comparing can cause you to get side tracked and sometimes makes you wonder if you are even on the right track. Don’t make that mistake because everyone’s journey will be different and just because someone is at a certain stage in the process doesn’t mean when you are at that stage yours experience will be the same.

To eliminate the stress and pressures of this, focusing on the finish line or your end goal is vital. It’s not to say stress out thinking only about the finish and nothing else, but enjoy the process. Enjoy the knowledge and experience you will gain along the way and before you know it, you will be seeing the fulfillment of that dream and ready to go after a new and exciting dream. So keep at it and don’t be discouraged just keep your eye on the prize and focus on the finish line. You have what it takes to succeed.

Remember you are a Worthy Woman.