Take Time To Care For You

As women we are naturally wired to take care of everyone, but at what point do we take care of ourselves? If you are a woman reading this and you are constantly taking care of others but never take the time for you, it’s time to change that today. When caring for others whether children, husband, parents or even friends you can easily forget to take care of you. Caring for self is very important and needs to be prioritized as such. As I write this I am also speaking to myself.

Whether you just take a few hours of alone time to read a good book, going to lunch with a friend or treating yourself to a massage. Self care is so important in that when we are always taking care of others and never or rarely taking care of ourselves, and it can lead to burnout at times. We can’t very well take care of others if we are out of commission. As is stated in the announcements on a plane before take off, In the event of an emergency situation and passengers are required to put on the masks, you must first put the mask on yourself before you can help anyone else. The same goes for life.

When I say self care I’m not just talking about treating yourself to “me time” by doing something you love. I’m also speaking in terms of health as well. If there is a doctors appointment that you have been putting off or if you haven’t been to the dentist in a while even, this is definitely a part of self care. Another important form of self care is the proper food intake. Eating too many sugary, fried and processed food zaps your energy which leaves you drained while trying to care for your family and friends. You already have a lot on your plate who wants to be exhausted halfway through the day. I’m sure each of us women have neglected to care for ourselves in at least one if not all of the self care categories that I wrote about in this post.

Let’s get intentional on taking the time to care for ourselves,and I don’t mean just saying we are going to do it. Set up a time(yes like an appointment) when you are going to enjoy some “me time”, make that doctor or dentist appointment and or even meal plan to start eating healthy. We are diligent in making appointments and caring for others let’s get diligent in making appointments and caring for ourselves. Let’s get started today! Your family and friends will thank you!

As always remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

Overcoming The Unexpected

Have you ever just been going about your life doing well, grinding on the way to success and out of the blue it hit you? What hit you? Life that’s what hit you! You know that bill, bad news or unexpected breakdown of a relationship you weren’t prepared for? What do you do to overcome moments or even seasons like these? Well this past week I experienced one of those unexpected moments and it wasn’t pretty. I want to share some points with you that may help in coming out of these seasons or moments of life on top.

1. Faith
The first thing I think is crucial in seasons or moments like this is faith. At times like these you you should draw as close to God as possible. He is the ultimate comforter. Some of the ways you can draw close to God is: reading His word, praying(talk to Him just like you talk to your friends, He understands your language He made you), listening to sermons and one of my favorites, listening to praise and worship music. In my opinion faith is absolutely necessary in overcoming life’s’ unexpected moments or seasons.

2. Good Friends
There is nothing like having a good friend to give you that pep talk, laugh and cry all in the same conversation. That friend who will allow you to be sad for a few moments and even a few days if need be, but after that, is there to motivate you to get back in the swing of things. At times like these we don’t need those fair weather friends or someone who calls themselves your friend but aren’t really familiar with the true meaning of the word. You need those true friends that will push you. This brings me to my next point.

3. A Positive Environment
Being positive when going through life’s unexpected moments can be hard, but it will make all the difference in the time it takes you to bounce back. Inevitably at some point in our lives we will all be knocked down but we must not stay down, we have to get back up as quickly as possible. To do that maintaining a positive environment is key. You do this by surrounding yourself with positive people even if it’s only one person be sure that person is positive. If you don’t have any positive people to be around then listen to positive people’s messages on your phone, in your car and on the computer. Some positive people you can listen to are Dr. Eric Thomas, Zig Ziglar and Les Brown to name a few. Each one of these guys motivate me each time I listen to them but if you aren’t motivated by any of them you can do a google search to find someone that motivates you. Being positive also includes the words you speak to yourself, this is crucial in this process of overcoming the unexpected. It’s bad when others speak negative words about you, but I think it’s even worse when you speak negative about yourself. Speaking positive in my opinion helps you stay positive.

4. Laughter
Lastly when going through the unexpected, I suggest you get in a few belly laughs a day. Really you should get a few belly laughs in even if you aren’t facing a challenge. For me I have a few go to movies or tv shows that I watch when I just need a laugh. Laughing just does something for me, it almost has a soothing affect. I remember as a kid hearing women say that they had to laugh to keep from crying. Sometimes that’s what we have to do, laugh to keep from crying. Laughter is healing for the emotions in my opinion. As the scripture says “Laughter does the heart good like medicine”. So the next time you are going through or just need a laugh get a few funny movies and laugh to your hearts content.

So if you’re in a difficult unexpected season or moment right now, try some of these keys and see how they help during this time. If life is going good for you keep this post handy anyway to refer back to as life has a way of showing up unexpectedly. Actually it may be helpful to have these things in place at all times because as Dr. Eric Thomas says “If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready”. No matter what season of life you may be in today always remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

True Love is Worth the Wait

Over the past few weeks I have talked about the ultimate example of love, the love of God the father. Though His love is irreplaceable, as humans we seek earthly(human love) as well. In seeking earthly(human love) at what cost should you do so? I mean in this day and age there are several ways in which people seek love. Whether it be blind dates, meeting people while in your daily routine, attending singles events or online dating. The options seem to continue to grow. While in this process of finding love or love finding you, make sure that’s it just that, love. Not filling the need to not be lonely or the deadline that you had for yourself to be married by a certain age.

I had a conversation some time ago with someone and we were talking about relationships and how they were tired of being alone. The conversation got very interesting when I asked the question “is it worth it to just date someone for the sake of not being alone and ultimately feeling a false sense of love”? I mean of course no one can ever come close to God’s but that love definitely doesn’t have to be second rate. From the way the conversation went the answer came to that it wasn’t worth it just to date or marry just for the sake of dating or marrying, but being lonely wasn’t fun either.

There comes a time when the decisions that we make will be the best decision for us, but it may be a little uncomfortable for a while. Finding love almost always falls in this category. I mean we are faced with the dilemma of accepting what is available or holding out for true love. The pain and loneliness that comes with the decision of waiting for a man who genuinely loves you and will treat you the way you ought to be treated will be nothing compared to the joy of when he actually arrives. Of course when you are wanting for something you tend to focus on getting that thing, but as the saying goes, don’t be so focused on the destination that you forget to enjoy the journey.

If you find yourself single and wondering when will my time come, be patient your time is coming!! True love is worth the wait. Though at times being single you may experience heartache. I’m sure that wouldn’t compare to the pain and regret of realizing that you gave up what you wanted most for what you desired at the time. So just be patient, as I said before your time is coming! While you’re waiting prepare, because preparation time is never lost time. True love is worth the wait!

Always remember You are a Worthy Woman!

Bought With A Price And Insured

I heard a really good sermon the other day that really made me look at the love of God in a different way. It’s always been comforting to know that God loved us so much that we were bought with the priceless blood of Jesus. That’s just awesome in itself, He loved us so much that He sent His one and only son to die on the cross for you and me. Just imagine every one of your sins, sickness and disease has already been paid for by Jesus blood.

Think about it for a second, someone loved you so much that they gave their life for yours. I don’t know about you but for me this story never gets old and never loses it’s impact. And just in case you happen to lose sight of His love along the way, He left us some insurance if you will to remind us of His love. He didn’t just love us enough to die for us He loved us so much that He left us His word, an instruction manual and love letter for life. Bought with a price and insured, now that’s love. In case you need a reminder of his love at any given time your insurance policy(the word) is always there to remind you of that love.

I don’t mean to be redundant but knowing how much we are loved is exciting to me and I want to be sure that you and women around the world know about His love. If you are not familiar with His word why not get acquainted today, Proverbs is a great place to start.

As always, remember You are a Worthy Woman!

Unconditional Love

It’s funny how in life we encounter many different people & personalities. Those who attempt to bring out the worst in us & others who bring out the absolute best. Those who give ultimatums & love us conditionally & those who love us no matter what. Just in case you didn’t know God’s love is unconditional.

He’s loves you when you’re at your best and He also loves you in the times you’re at your worst. There is nothing that we can do to make our Heavenly Father love us any less. He doesn’t give ultimatums and loves you for who you are. Whether you are tall or short, light or dark, introverted or extroverted He loves you. Yes He loves you, you reading this blog. He loves you! Look at yourself in the mirror and say God loves me!

Yes He loves you! The word says “He loves us with an everlasting love”(Jeremiah 31:3a). Everlasting means forever, so yes God will love you forever. His love doesn’t change and it’s never revoked. God’s unconditional love is always there and you can count on that. As Hebrews 13:8 says “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.”

So if you are reading this today and you feel that there is no way that God can love you, because you’ve done such and such. He does love you and He loves you unconditionally. Here are a few things He has said about you or to you:

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. John 15:9(ESV)

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16(NIV)

For I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from his love. Death can’t, and life can’t. The angels won’t, and all the powers of hell itself cannot keep God’s love away. Our fears for today, our worries about tomorrow, 39 or where we are—high above the sky, or in the deepest ocean—nothing will ever be able to separate us from the love of God demonstrated by our Lord Jesus Christ when he died for us. Romans 8:38-39(TLB)

So no matter what you’ve done or what you’re going through God’s love is ever present in you and for you. He loves you so much, more than you will ever know. Receive His love today.

God Loves You Unconditionally and remember You Are A Worthy Woman!

He Loves You!

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner I thought it was the perfect time to speak to you ladies on love. For the next few weeks I will be doing a series titled “So Loved”.  As a minister at my church always used to say “you haven’t been loved until you’ve been SO LOVED”.

I remember as a little girl when we really liked someone we would get flowers with petals and take the petals off one by one alternating saying “he loves me, he loves me not”, and if on the last petal you were at he loves me then it meant that possibly the boy liked you. Oh the silly things we did as kids, what a way to determine love.

Whether you are spending this Valentine’s Day with or without someone I’d like to tell you that you are SO LOVED, HE LOVES YOU. I know usually around this time of the year we compute love in dinners, balloons and gifts but it goes far beyond that. We have been loved with an everlasting love(Jeremiah 31:3), a love that’s not conditional or only comes around some of the time, this is a everyday all day kind of love.

This love I’m speaking of is the father’s love, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!”( I John 3:1a).  So whether you will have a valentine or not this year, know that YOU ARE LOVED. You are so loved that not only did He give His only begotten son for you, He created the masterpiece of you. He carefully planned every detail about you even down to the number of hairs on your head. Wow…that ‘s some kind of love. I know you may be thinking(if you’re single) you want a physical love and I totally understand that, but at God’s perfect time He will send you someone who He has hand picked for you. It will definitely be worth the wait, but until then enjoy the exclusivity of God’s love. I pray that God’s love floods your heart today and that you feel His presence today and everyday. So that you always remember I want you to say every day I am (insert your name here) and I AM LOVED!

YOU ARE LOVED AND YOU ARE A WORTHY WOMAN!!

 

Focus on the Finish Line

At the start of a dream most if not all people are excited, and motivated to say the least. The beginning is always fun and exciting and nothing can keep you from your dream so it seems. In talking about dreams and goals the beginning and the end of the dream or goal are happy times but what about the middle? You know when it seems like those small wins just aren’t enough and everyone around you is excelling at full speed ahead but it seems that your progress is slow? It’s at times like that when you must be intentional with your focus, it’s at times like that when you must have a laser focus if you will.

It’s so easy to look around and see the progress that others are making, and your small wins seem insignificant, but don’t despise small beginnings. Just keep that tunnel vision and you will get there. Focus is very important in achieving your dreams, and losing your focus to see what others are doing is good way to slow down your own progress. In that looking at others and comparing can cause you to get side tracked and sometimes makes you wonder if you are even on the right track. Don’t make that mistake because everyone’s journey will be different and just because someone is at a certain stage in the process doesn’t mean when you are at that stage yours experience will be the same.

To eliminate the stress and pressures of this, focusing on the finish line or your end goal is vital. It’s not to say stress out thinking only about the finish and nothing else, but enjoy the process. Enjoy the knowledge and experience you will gain along the way and before you know it, you will be seeing the fulfillment of that dream and ready to go after a new and exciting dream. So keep at it and don’t be discouraged just keep your eye on the prize and focus on the finish line. You have what it takes to succeed.

Remember you are a Worthy Woman.

You’ve Figure Out Your Dream, Now What?

In the journey to the birthing your dreams of course knowing your dreams are important, but that’s only half the battle. After you’ve figured out the dream that you’re going after, there is a crucial step you must take. That crucial step is goal setting. Many of you may know what goal setting is, but for those of you that don’t. Goal setting is basically a clearly written desire. It’s been said by Brian Tracy that “people with clear written goals will accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could imagine”. I don’t know what it is but it’s something about writing that goal down and keeping it before your eyes, that makes you want to take action. I guess you can say setting goals are the action steps to achieving your dreams. I don’t want to sound misleading by having you think that all you have to do is write them down and they’ll happen, of course there will be work involved. By reaching a series of small goals your dreams can become a reality.

So let’s get into a few steps for setting goals. The steps for this process may be different for others, but this is the process that I use. The steps for setting goals are:

1. Be Specific- When creating your goals it’s a must that you be specific. For example, If your goal is to go
to school what school and what will you go to school for. It’s just much more doable when you are specific
with your goals. I mean if you aren’t specific there’s no telling what you’ll get. I remember a few years
ago I was making spaghetti for my sister and I told her the ingredients to get but I must have not been
very specific on the kind of sauce to get because she bought the sauce that she uses(which I wasn’t fond
of). Since I wasn’t specific I had to use the sauce that she brought and my recipe wasn’t exactly the way I
like it. So now anytime I make spaghetti for anyone I am sure to be specific on the sauce to buy. The same
goes for our goals, be specific on what you want or you may get less than what you expected.

2. Write it down- Writing your goal down is a vital factor to achieving your goal. There have been times in
the past where I have talked about things I wanted to do but never wrote them down and they almost never
came to pass, and if they did it took longer than I expected. I don’t know what it is about writing down
the goals that makes it more effective but I know it works.

3. Set a deadline-Give yourself a deadline to meet your goal(a realistic deadline). If you set a deadline for
a goal that isn’t realistic you will set yourself up to fail.

4. Keep it before your eyes- Once you have created your goal be sure to keep it before your eyes often. One of
my favorite ways to do this is with a vision board(I will talk more about vision boards in an upcoming
post). Keeping your goal before your eyes can simply be a picture of a representation of your goal on the
refrigerator, or even photo slideshow on your computer screensaver. Either way the visual representation of
your goal will be pivotal in achieving your goal.

5. Tell someone- I find that telling someone of the goal you’re trying to achieve keeps you accountable.

6. Create a plan of action- All of the previous steps are great but without a plan it may be a bit difficult
to achieve your goals. When creating a plan of action to achieving your goals the best way to accomplish
this is one step at a time. I love the saying “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”. The same
goes for your goals. Break the goal into small steps and get to achieving those dreams! You have what it
takes to make it happen.

Remember you are a Worthy Woman!

Failure Isn’t Final

A little while ago we were going over my son’s lessons from school and he got stuck on a few math problems as he had given the wrong answer. In his mind he felt that since he got so many wrong that he had failed. I told him he hadn’t failed he just learned. After I checked his work and identified the problems he had wrong we went over them, watched an instruction video on how to correctly do this type of math and then he redid the problems. After taking those steps he got all the problems right, well in his mind he thought because he didn’t get it right the first time that he failed.

A lot of times in life we have the same view about failure, but in my opinion failure sometimes teaches us more than success. It’s in those times of failure that we must not give up. Just think if Thomas Edison had given up after the first time he tried to make an invention from the peanut. There would be a possibility that the world would be void of his inventions today, such as the light bulb. I’m not saying it will be easy, but it’ll be worth it. It could be that one time you decide to give up, your success could be one step away. I’ve always loved the Thomas Edison quote “I have not failed. I just found 10,00 ways that didn’t work”. So don’t think of the absence of success as failure but as a way that didn’t work.

Just recently I was listening to a podcast and the guest touched on this. He talked about how he launched a community last year and it had zero sign ups. He has now recently relaunched the community and this time he got over 100 sign ups in two weeks. As one of my favorite teachers in school would say “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”. You have it in you to succeed.I believe in you!

Remember you are a Worthy Woman!!

Designer’s Original

I’m not much of a Diva myself but I know a lady who I think Diva is her middle name. She has to always wear makeup and of course the latest fashions. Actually she even takes fashion a bit above most as many of the clothes she buys are one of a kind or limited editions. Which brings me to what I’d like to talk about today.

When God created women he created beautiful masterpieces, he carefully chose the details of not only our physical features but our personalities and gifts as well. With that being said I can confidently say that no two women are exactly alike. When He created you, He created a designer’s original. Each of us are one of a kind and it’s time we started embracing that. I mean truly walk in who we are. Maybe God made you a laid back person who is awesome at playing the guitar, or who is an excellent decorator. I’ve heard people say I wish I could be like so and so she does (fill in the blank) so well, but why not admire and master your own gifts. I mean don’t get me wrong it’s nothing wrong with admiring someone’s gift but don’t forget to admire yours as well. Hence the name gift, it was given to you by God so that you can share it with the world.

If everyone had the same gifts or were exactly the same the world would be boring in my opinion. My son and I were watching a TV show a little while ago with two teenage girls who are friends. One of them had been observing how people treated her because of her personality so she tried to be like her friend in an effort to get people to treat her the same way. Ultimately in the end it didn’t work out because she was miserable trying to be somebody that she wasn’t. It’s kind of like trying to squeeze your foot in a size 6 shoe but you know you wear a size 8. Not a very good fit, huh? Well it’s the same with life and being who God made you to be. It would be much more comfortable being who you truly are. Even if being who you truly are may cost you a few friends. Sometimes we as women change so that we can fit into a certain crowd or to please others, but is it really worth it?

There’s a Dr. Seuss quote that sums it up perfectly, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out”.

Always remember, YOU ARE WORTHY!