You’ve Figure Out Your Dream, Now What?

In the journey to the birthing your dreams of course knowing your dreams are important, but that’s only half the battle. After you’ve figured out the dream that you’re going after, there is a crucial step you must take. That crucial step is goal setting. Many of you may know what goal setting is, but for those of you that don’t. Goal setting is basically a clearly written desire. It’s been said by Brian Tracy that “people with clear written goals will accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could imagine”. I don’t know what it is but it’s something about writing that goal down and keeping it before your eyes, that makes you want to take action. I guess you can say setting goals are the action steps to achieving your dreams. I don’t want to sound misleading by having you think that all you have to do is write them down and they’ll happen, of course there will be work involved. By reaching a series of small goals your dreams can become a reality.

So let’s get into a few steps for setting goals. The steps for this process may be different for others, but this is the process that I use. The steps for setting goals are:

1. Be Specific- When creating your goals it’s a must that you be specific. For example, If your goal is to go
to school what school and what will you go to school for. It’s just much more doable when you are specific
with your goals. I mean if you aren’t specific there’s no telling what you’ll get. I remember a few years
ago I was making spaghetti for my sister and I told her the ingredients to get but I must have not been
very specific on the kind of sauce to get because she bought the sauce that she uses(which I wasn’t fond
of). Since I wasn’t specific I had to use the sauce that she brought and my recipe wasn’t exactly the way I
like it. So now anytime I make spaghetti for anyone I am sure to be specific on the sauce to buy. The same
goes for our goals, be specific on what you want or you may get less than what you expected.

2. Write it down- Writing your goal down is a vital factor to achieving your goal. There have been times in
the past where I have talked about things I wanted to do but never wrote them down and they almost never
came to pass, and if they did it took longer than I expected. I don’t know what it is about writing down
the goals that makes it more effective but I know it works.

3. Set a deadline-Give yourself a deadline to meet your goal(a realistic deadline). If you set a deadline for
a goal that isn’t realistic you will set yourself up to fail.

4. Keep it before your eyes- Once you have created your goal be sure to keep it before your eyes often. One of
my favorite ways to do this is with a vision board(I will talk more about vision boards in an upcoming
post). Keeping your goal before your eyes can simply be a picture of a representation of your goal on the
refrigerator, or even photo slideshow on your computer screensaver. Either way the visual representation of
your goal will be pivotal in achieving your goal.

5. Tell someone- I find that telling someone of the goal you’re trying to achieve keeps you accountable.

6. Create a plan of action- All of the previous steps are great but without a plan it may be a bit difficult
to achieve your goals. When creating a plan of action to achieving your goals the best way to accomplish
this is one step at a time. I love the saying “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”. The same
goes for your goals. Break the goal into small steps and get to achieving those dreams! You have what it
takes to make it happen.

Remember you are a Worthy Woman!

Failure Isn’t Final

A little while ago we were going over my son’s lessons from school and he got stuck on a few math problems as he had given the wrong answer. In his mind he felt that since he got so many wrong that he had failed. I told him he hadn’t failed he just learned. After I checked his work and identified the problems he had wrong we went over them, watched an instruction video on how to correctly do this type of math and then he redid the problems. After taking those steps he got all the problems right, well in his mind he thought because he didn’t get it right the first time that he failed.

A lot of times in life we have the same view about failure, but in my opinion failure sometimes teaches us more than success. It’s in those times of failure that we must not give up. Just think if Thomas Edison had given up after the first time he tried to make an invention from the peanut. There would be a possibility that the world would be void of his inventions today, such as the light bulb. I’m not saying it will be easy, but it’ll be worth it. It could be that one time you decide to give up, your success could be one step away. I’ve always loved the Thomas Edison quote “I have not failed. I just found 10,00 ways that didn’t work”. So don’t think of the absence of success as failure but as a way that didn’t work.

Just recently I was listening to a podcast and the guest touched on this. He talked about how he launched a community last year and it had zero sign ups. He has now recently relaunched the community and this time he got over 100 sign ups in two weeks. As one of my favorite teachers in school would say “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”. You have it in you to succeed.I believe in you!

Remember you are a Worthy Woman!!

Designer’s Original

I’m not much of a Diva myself but I know a lady who I think Diva is her middle name. She has to always wear makeup and of course the latest fashions. Actually she even takes fashion a bit above most as many of the clothes she buys are one of a kind or limited editions. Which brings me to what I’d like to talk about today.

When God created women he created beautiful masterpieces, he carefully chose the details of not only our physical features but our personalities and gifts as well. With that being said I can confidently say that no two women are exactly alike. When He created you, He created a designer’s original. Each of us are one of a kind and it’s time we started embracing that. I mean truly walk in who we are. Maybe God made you a laid back person who is awesome at playing the guitar, or who is an excellent decorator. I’ve heard people say I wish I could be like so and so she does (fill in the blank) so well, but why not admire and master your own gifts. I mean don’t get me wrong it’s nothing wrong with admiring someone’s gift but don’t forget to admire yours as well. Hence the name gift, it was given to you by God so that you can share it with the world.

If everyone had the same gifts or were exactly the same the world would be boring in my opinion. My son and I were watching a TV show a little while ago with two teenage girls who are friends. One of them had been observing how people treated her because of her personality so she tried to be like her friend in an effort to get people to treat her the same way. Ultimately in the end it didn’t work out because she was miserable trying to be somebody that she wasn’t. It’s kind of like trying to squeeze your foot in a size 6 shoe but you know you wear a size 8. Not a very good fit, huh? Well it’s the same with life and being who God made you to be. It would be much more comfortable being who you truly are. Even if being who you truly are may cost you a few friends. Sometimes we as women change so that we can fit into a certain crowd or to please others, but is it really worth it?

There’s a Dr. Seuss quote that sums it up perfectly, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out”.

Always remember, YOU ARE WORTHY!

Birthing Your Dream

I vividly remember as a little girl having a conversation with my dad about what I wanted to be when I grew up. I mean I remember it like it was a few hours ago. In that conversation I told him I wanted to be photographer. Honestly I don’t even know when we had that conversation if I even owned a camera, but something in me knew I wanted to be a photographer. You know as a kid when you speak, you speak from the heart as that is the time for most when life hasn’t happened yet and you believe that anything is possible. After that day I don’t even remember thinking about being a photographer much or even giving the conversation much thought. I just went on being a kid, and has I got older and began to be around my friends more, I unintentionally started capturing the memories we made with pictures.

Still never really thinking much about being a photographer, just doing what I loved. Growing up I always had a camera even if it was just a throw away camera, I had to capture the moment.

Then as life began to happen and I became an adult I would take pictures less often. I had begun to let life and life circumstances keep me from what I loved. I was an adult now and thought that doing what you love is what you do when you are a kid. As an adult I began to gain the mentality that you do what you have to do or what you are expected to do. Even though that was my reality at the time, somewhere inside was a little girl who wanted to be a photographer.

Well fast forward a few years and I began my dream of being a photographer, not full time but I was still doing what I loved. Today I don’t photograph as much as I’d like but that is changing also. So I am here today to tell you that just because you are an adult doesn’t mean you can’t do what you love and make a living from it. Of course as an adult we have to take care of our responsibilities and do what you have to do but that doesn’t mean you can’t also do what you love. There will be work involved in making the dream of doing what you love a reality but it will all be worth it. It’s like when you are in labor to deliver a child there will be labor pain and you will have to push but once it’s all said and done and you see your beautiful baby, you forget about the pain and begin to enjoy the blessing your new bundle of joy brings.

Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to look back over this year on December 31, 2017 and say you you’re in the process of birthing your dream, to say you started that business, you finished that book, or whatever your dream may be? There is a quote that I remember seeing on New Year’s Eve 2015 on a church marque that read “A year from now you will wish you started today”. So let me ask you what dream do you have in your heart waiting to be birthed? Think about this for a minute and begin to dream those childlike dreams again, you know the real you before life happened kind of dreams, then write it down. Like the good book says “Write the vision and make it plain” Habakuk 2:2. Even though you aren’t still a kid anything is still possible.

So let me ask you this, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Always remember YOU ARE A WORTHY WOMAN!